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Top 3 Writing Regrets #IWSG #AmWriting @TheIWSG

Happy IWSG Day! Every Wednesday of the month Alex J. Cavaugh’s group share their insecurities. Feel free to join us! https://www.insecurewriterssupportgroup.com/p/iwsg-sign-up.html

Our Twitter handle is @TheIWSG and hashtag is #IWSG.

January 5 question – What’s the one thing about your writing career you regret the most? Were you able to overcome it?


The awesome co-hosts are Erika Beebe, Olga Godim, Sandra Cox, Sarah Foster, and Chemist Ken!

Top 3 Writing Regrets

  1. Overanalyzing – The anxiety! When you put yourself out there overthinking comes with the territory. We all do/say dumb things. I have enough road behind me now to sift through criticism, collect what’s helpful and discard what’s not. If I could say anything to my old writer self it’s, “Trust your gut.” and “Learn to let stuff go.”
  2. Publishing too soon – In the world of instant digital gratification we’re hasty to share our creativity, then learn the hard way once work is out there attached to our name it follows us forever. Thankfully it’s a big world and I am one little person. I’m not important. Life is short. Etc.
  3. Isolating – Writing is solitary, but only to a point. It’s seductive to go into this misanthropic state when we’re angry, sad or simply feeling unsure of ourselves. The romance of insanity. I don’t know who originally said it, but the statement, “Art isn’t created in a vacuum.” is great to keep in mind. Know your audience. Learn from mentors. Collaborate for growth and renewal.

OMG. Regret itself.

A friend mentioned to me how interesting it is wood burns in many ways. It heats us in many ways. I assumed they were eluding to some complex concept, and couldn’t follow what they were saying. Then I remembered my cabin in the woods in Albion, CA. The wood burning stove in the living room was small. I would go down under the tarp where we kept the wood dry near the pigmy forrest and lug a piece up the hill to the splitting stump where a large tree once stood. Once I was done splitting the damn thing to fit the little stove I would be warm enough to not want a fire for another hour or so.

We chop wood down, haul wood, store wood, split wood and light wood. It burns calories. Time. Energy. Writing also burns in many ways. When I question myself as to whether what I’m working on is “right” or “productive” I remember my muscles grow each time I create something new. Having no regrets is still a work in progress.

What do you regret most? Were you able to overcome it? I will always return comments with the exception of a zombie apocalypse.

“It’s alive!” #IWSG #AmWriting @TheIWSG

When bringing your work to life which is more difficult to write? The title or blurb?

It’s the first Wednesday of the month. Time for another Insecure Writer’s Support Group post à la author, Alex J. Cavanaugh. Join us here – https://www.insecurewriterssupportgroup.com/p/iwsg-sign-up.html


Our Twitter handle is @TheIWSG and hashtag is #IWSG.

The awesome co-hosts for the November 3 posting of the IWSG are Kim Lajevardi, Victoria Marie Lees, Joylene Nowell Butler, Erika Beebe, and Lee Lowery!

Blurbs are your hook, but the title dictates a lot.

 While the working title of any given piece is ever morphing; I have a basic idea of the blurb as I’m finishing the book. I’ve let go of fantasizing about cover options. I’ve accepted it’s the publisher’s decision and I have no say in the matter. But, the title…

For me the title is the heartbeat of the piece. If I give it the wrong name during the, “Let there be light!” moment all my efforts will have been in vane. When the lightening strikes I’ll have missed my moment and failed my creation. The blurb is the ever important 25 second pitch to say, “Read. Me.” Still. I’ve found the title influences the cover choice the graphic designer will execute. This makes it hard for me to choose. I have commitment issues when it comes to titles.

Blurb or title? It’s a difficult question. Which is harder? I lean towards title. Which one do you find most difficult to write?

4 Signs Of Success #IWSG #AmWriting @TheIWSG

Our Twitter handle is @TheIWSG and hashtag is #IWSG.
The Insecure Writer’s Support Group was started by writer, Alex J. Cavanaugh aka The Blog Father. Every month, we announce a question that members can answer in their IWSG post. These questions may prompt you to share advice, insight, a personal experience or story. Include your answer to the question in your IWSG post or let it inspire your post if you are struggling with something to say. 

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September 1 question – How do you define success as a writer? Is it holding your book in your hand? Having a short story published? Making a certain amount of income from your writing?
The awesome co-hosts for the September 1 posting of the IWSG are Rebecca Douglass, T. Powell Coltrin @Journaling Woman, Natalie Aguirre, Karen Lynn, and C. Lee McKenzie!

We all have different ideas on what defines success. As a writer, these are my Top 4

1. Permission

Writing is about exposure. Giving ourselves permission to express ourselves and command an audience can be crazy-making. It’s different for everyone. I keep my eye out for what it means to each artist. For some it’s about getting traditionally published. Others, it’s receiving public feedback from readers. Like the dead beauty queen DMV-styled receptionist in Beetlejuice said, “It’s all very personal.”

Permission gives us the deep inner strength to persevere through the inevitable pitfalls. Sleeplessness. Time away from more lucrative endeavors. Guilt free demands for isolation to meet a deadline while others around you protest. The list goes on. And on. And on.

2. Finding Your Voice

It takes a lot of bad writing to get to the good stuff. We tend to imitate our favorite writers, until their voices slowly fade away as our own unique sound and expressions emerge. You know it when you got it. The eureka! moment exists.

3. Collaboration

Nothing sends a shiver up my spine like another artist reaching out to support my podcast, shorts and novel endeavors. I’ve collaborated with directors, writers, musicians and visual artists. I’ve been working on a graphic novel with an artist I respect and admire, spoken with a screenwriter and director overseas and gotten comments on articles I’ve written from authors who concur. This might seem small to others, but makes me want to pinch myself every time.

4. Vision

Getting labor out to an audience you’re confident represents your strengths and vision is no small feat. I have bad work I wish to bury forever. I’m set on throwing piles of better work on top of it. It’s a struggle. Having a path cleared and a steady pace to run it defines success for me.

How do you define success as a writer?